Well after 2 years of Elise having a nummy (her word for her pacifier) we have decided to help her let it go. Last Friday afternoon when we got home, we took the one out of the car that she was sucking on and I got Elise to throw it into the rubbish bin outside. It took quite a bit of coaxing but it was achieved without any tears or tantrums.
After that initial easy task I thought the rest would be a breeze. How wrong was I. Friday night there was a few tears and it took quite a while to go to sleep. Eventually I sat beside her so I could soothe her but I expected that so I was semi prepared.
Then Saturday night we had a friend and his daughter over for dinner. Elise played and laughed and all was well. We decided that it was time for a shower and then bed. Elise was quite excited but we got her ready. As soon as we entered her room she started asking for the dummy. I repeatedly told her that she threw it out and that there was no others (oh the lies you tell to your kids). There were tears and lots of getting in and out of bed! I’m not sure how long it took but eventually she fell asleep with me next to her with a hand placed on her back.
What should I have expected? I mean, she’s had a dummy in her mouth the last 2 years every time she has gone to sleep. We had dummy’s hidden throughout the entire house. Now she has to relearn how to go to sleep without it. A fear grew inside me. She’s going to have to relearn how to settle herself to go to sleep. I’ve also lost that extra tool, the motivator, briber and soother.
So every time we go anywhere in the car she asks for her lost friend, her nummy, also when she’s upset, ‘nummy?’ and lastly when it’s nap/bed time. It’s like talking to someone with a short term memory problem. I inform her again and again that unfortunately honey we threw it out, do you remember?
Well today is Monday. She’s just down for her nap after a morning of helping me tidy up after the weekend shenanigans. Today was better. Today I didn’t have to place my hand on her back until she feel asleep. I just had to sit on the floor beside the bed. I’m sure that tomorrow will be better again, maybe I’ll make it to the door.
Would I do it again? Of course, it was worth it in my eyes.